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Reframing the Journey
Self-blame (“I should have been there”) can lock grief in place. With a mentor’s help, Krissy reframed limiting beliefs and began creating a new mental story rooted in Christ’s love—not condemnation.
Video coming soon
Krissy will walk you through processing this chapter’s emotions here.
Tonight’s tool from her Healing Toolbox
Create a New Mental Story
Krissy learned versions of this from mentors including Kirk Duncan, Tammy Ward, Kris Krohn, and Ann Washburn. Listening to a present-tense, hopeful story morning and night helped rewire what her subconscious treated as important.
Step by step
- Step 1: Choose a focus area (for example, your spiritual understanding of the loss).
- Step 2: Write bullet points for how you would like to feel—keep it present and positive. Turn them into sentences and a short story. (Instead of “I hope one day I will wake up happy,” say “I wake up full of hope and happiness every morning.”)
- Step 3: Record it on your phone in your own voice (inspiring music in the background is optional).
- Listen morning and night so it reaches your subconscious. Consistency matters.
From Appendix: My Healing Toolbox — Create a New Mental Story
If you’re struggling right now
You do not have to fix the whole night. Soften your body first. These breath practices are from Krissy’s toolbox (Breathwork).
Physiological Sigh
For instant stress relief: inhale deeply through your nose, sip a second sharp burst at the top, then long slow sigh out the mouth. Repeat 2 or 3 times.
Box Breathing
Inhale 4 · hold 4 · exhale 4 · hold 4. Repeat for 2 to 5 minutes. Open the guided exercise.
4-7-8
Exhale whoosh · inhale 4 · hold 7 · exhale 8. Repeat for 4 cycles.
If you are in crisis in the United States: call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). You deserve support right now.
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